Monday, December 13, 2010

Taking a Risk....

I just did something I rarely do. I posted a comment on a friend's status in FaceBook that will definitely be controversial.

I thought about whether or not to say anything since last night. I really do not like to make waves, to confront, and to have to defend myself.

Other thoughts came to mind that helped me to gain the courage to say something.

When it comes to living God's laws, it is pretty "black and white". The scriptures tell us that if we are not for God, then we are against Him. If we do not stand up for what is right, then we are condoning through our silence, what is wrong.

"All it takes for evil to prevail in this world is for good men to do nothing." I don't remember who first said that, but it has stuck with me through the years.

Being a non-confrontational person, keeping silent is always easier. But in doing so I've realized I'm failing God's test. I'm not striving to gain strength, I'm strengthening my weakness.

The status, which I strongly disagree with, said the following:

"Let me get this straight - Larry King is getting his 8th divorce, Elizabeth Taylor is possibly getting married for a 9th time, Britney Spears had a 55-hour marriage. Jesse James and Tiger Woods are screwing EVERYTHING, yet the idea of same-sex marriage is going to destroy the institution of marriage?? Really? REALLY......?? - Proud to support equal rights for ALL!"

Yes, REALLY. The family and marriage are in trouble.

I said what I felt in my heart to say. I could have said more, but it would have come across as attacking. I decided I did not do this to change anyone's mind, because in that format, I doubt I would. I did it to clear my own conscience that I stood for right and did not keep silent with a wrong.

I will say more here.

Marriage was instituted by God, not man. It is the arrogance of man to think he has the right to change God's law. That is really what all the wars and conflicts through the ages are about. Men who envision themselves above God, so therefor they have the power to make the laws as they desire and not as God made them. And to enforce their supposed power through violence.

If a person chooses to live their life contrary to God's law, they have the free will to do so. But, they must accept the consequences and limitations that go along with that choice. It is one of those "You can't have your cake and eat it too" situations.

As far as same-sex relationships are concerned, I do not see a difference between those and the lifestyle my ex-husband chose, or for that matter, Jesse James or Tiger Woods. They all are wrong in that they are participating in activity outside of marriage that is only meant to be within marriage. And changing the law to allow for same-sex relationships to be within marriage is really distorting what God meant to create when he created marriage.

Simply changing the rules does not make immoral behavior suddenly moral. What is moral or not moral is defined by the mind of God, not man. Since man cannot change God's mind, because he is Holy and unchangeable, what's the point in trying to change the law?

Another person left a further comment, that to be fair and not targeting a certain "lifestyle choice", would be to outlaw divorce altogether.

Ok, let's get real on that one. Marriage involves TWO people. If one of those people chooses to violate the covenant, then the other person has the right to opt out. How horrible it would be to forbid a battered wife to get away from a destructive marriage. And from experience and in talking to other women who married an adulterous man, she has been emotionally battered. Not to mention her very life is put at risk though his possible exposure to disease.

I do not believe in having our lives regulated by too many laws of man. The more the law regulates, the less people will think for themselves. The less people will hold themselves accountable for their actions and choices. Some law is needed, but less is better. Let instead, each person to be left to themselves with God's laws as He made them. Let each person accept and live the consequences of their choices, and discover for themselves, where true happiness lies.

The more the government gets involved, the less accountable the people become.

Leave the law where God put it.


  1. Very good remarks. I personally have also been in a divorce that I am glad i was able to get out from under. I learned though that The divorce was only needed for the legal portion of the law in gods eyes my husband had put me aside and therefore had done the sin.

    As for Same Sex relations. you can love the person but not the sin. Everyone has challenges in this life it is whether they fall to temptation or overcome that god will look at. But changing mortal laws will not make the sin any less. We all have the will and agency to make our own choices it is not Free it had a very high price the death of our Saviour.

  2. Thank you Lindsay,

    I have had two divorces that were the result of my husbands making choices that broke the covenant. Both times I realized that to remain in the marriage would be to mock the institution of marriage. Marriage is ordained of God and must be practiced within the boundaries the Lord has made.

    Our agency was given to us as a free gift, no matter what, so was the Resurrection. The price paid by our Savior was the Atonement, that would reconcile us, despite our wrong choices with our agency, back to Heavenly Father.

  3. Love this post. Who are we to just sin... a sin is a sin. Homosexuality seems to be a bigger sin in some many people's eyes. Why? It is because they are threaten, is what i am saying.

    Good for you for standing up, Sandy!

  4. woot woot, go sister!!! haha, just kidding. No really I totally agree with you. Sorry, I'm in a wierd mood today so I sound really out of it. The whole issue just makes me sick, god made everything natural, so why do they think it should be ok being gay? They can't procreate at all so it's just not natural. God made it very clear when he made adam and eve that we pare up as man and wife. I think it's just rediculous that this person tries to compare gay marriages with mariages that are falling apart. It's all mans mistake, they are vain people and that's why they are cheating and getting divorced, their hearts are in wrong places. It has nothing to do with why gays are wrong. They are completely different subjects and issues altogether. it seems to me that this person is having some issues with their personal life and thinks the world should give up on gods beliefs and commandments and just let the world go down without the fight. God put us here to fight for what's right, this is truely our test as this is coming to an end and it sounds like this person is failing because they just want to give up and just say everything is right and it's normal for the world to be screwy. I know what you are saying about not liking to be controversal, I am the same way, but I am also the same way on not being able to not say anything at all when it comes to that kind of stuff. So I am proud that you were able to say what you could to validate your beliefs.